Buy a scrapbook & mail a page to all of the bachelorette's girlfriends. Ask everyone to decorate one side with photos of herself with the bride, funny quotes & memories, a letter, etc. On the other side, have them write out their favorite recipe.
Groomsmen gift idea - Etched glasses with their monogram filled with a mini bottle of each groomsman's favorite alcohol. Give to each groomsmen as a gift from the bride the day of the wedding, and attach a personalized note to the bottle.
This site is FULL of shower, birthday party and bachelorette party ideas, themes and games! i personally hate shower games, but i know i will end up planning at least one shower for someone who loves them lol.