Losing people throughout your life even if it's not to death still feels the same. A part of you dies depending on how much that person meant to you when you find out they weren't the person they portrayed themselves to be.
For many grievers, tears come in private places like the car or the shower, the garden or the closet . Just because you don't see us crying doesn't mean we aren't feeling the loss. To the contrary, we feel their loss QUITE DEEPLY.