Gilbert Elliot of Stobs married Margaret Scott, d/o Scott of Harden: "Finding it inconvenient to take home his bride, Gibbie besought his father-in-law to allow him to remain under his roof. With this request, Harden complied, on condition that he was to receive for his board 'the plunder of his first harvest moon...'" An agreement that was "highly characteristic of the lawlessness and barbarity of the age." (fm "Annals of a Border Club," p166, George Tancred)
Instead of the unity candle/sand ceremony: Handfasting ceremony-a tradition in Celtic betrothal or wedding ceremonies. The term is originally from Old Norse 'hand-festa' which means "to strike a bargain by joining hands." So considering I'm Irish/Scottish and he's Scottich/American Indian, it's perfect. But I'm braiding 3 ribbons (to represent me, him, and GOD) rather than just a rope.
Much of the beauty of the handfasting ritual comes from the tools and materials that are used, all of which have symbolic meaning, mostly relating to love and spirituality, and all deeply profound. The priest ties the couple’s hands together to symbolize their union. The bride and groom carefully select the colors of the ribbons for the cord to be used to bind their hands. Red, of course, symbolizes passion. Green represents fertility and new beginnings.