its starts from you, so believe what I know... you are amazing! After all I know you best and I see what you may not, so until you see it too, let me give you the words of encouragement you need, the hand to hold, and the shoulder to lean on! I love you both!
Sometimes "real" is our desire for a particular and preferred frame of reference to materialize. Our expectations may cause us to spend years believing the frame will be realized only because we once had it and want it again. Real is when we cease to wait for something to frame up. Waiting =/= Living. ~Zest of Life
Sometimes if you want your partner/friend/family member to treat you with kindness, then being kind to your partner/friend/family member first will invite kindness in return. See if it works. It might take a few acts of kindness before your partner/friend/family member softens and things change, but making the decision to be kind can actually change the direction of your relationship(s).
tomorrow (noun): a mystical land where 99% of all human productivity, motivation, and achievement is stored.