The lessons are in the struggle! I struggle with this all the time, constantly having to remind myself that they need to learn how to make difficult choices and that they can be strong in difficult times. For the difficult times and difficult choices will always come.
I love this. Remembering to have a grateful heart is quite possibly a cure-all for any bad feelings. When pity sets in, start counting your blessings....you may be surprised how little you actually have to complain about.