Teaching a Child To Hold a Pencil... 1. Take a Kleenex and tear it two pieces. 2. Have the child pinch the Kleenex piece in his/her pinky and ring finger, like this. 3. While the child is still pinching the Kleenex in those two fingers, tell him to hold the pencil in the remaining three fingers. 4. Remarkably, as long as the Kleenex is still "occupying" their 4th and 5th fingers, the child will naturally hold the pencil the right way.