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And people who call themselves nice aren't truly nice, they just act like it for self satisfaction. Ugh it just annoys me when people act so oblivious when clearly they are bragging or asking to get attention. To me the nicest and prettiest people are those who don't self proclaim it and don't seek confirmation from other people. Those things show through on their own.
its starts from you, so believe what I know... you are amazing! After all I know you best and I see what you may not, so until you see it too, let me give you the words of encouragement you need, the hand to hold, and the shoulder to lean on! I love you both!
But you can learn to forgive and move forward, and extend grace. BUT you can NEVER EVER move forward until you have moved through the pain. Wherever you heard that, they were telling you a lie from satan. Why? Because that lie sprang forth from the father of lies and they both need to be told STOP, read God's Word. Then tell satan to go back to Hell. "Resist the devil and he will flee from you."