"Your responsibility to other people is in your intent and actions, not in their interpretations." ~ 55 Concepts. You do your best to be clear but people often hear through their beliefs and patterns and for that you cannot be responsible. More
honest vs. rude - YES! I wish more people understood that you can be honest without being rude or hurting another's feelings. And sometimes it's just a good idea not to say anything at all. I have learned this the hard way!!