There is a voice inside of you That whispers all day long, "I feel this is right for me, I know that this is wrong." No teacher, preacher, parent, friend Or wise man can decide What's right for you -- just listen to The voice that speaks inside. -Shel Silverstein
When your situation involves more than you, listen to your voice. Then all you have to do is figure out what their voice is telling them. Maybe you should ask, because it sucks to wonder. Then it comes down to trust, motivations, and actions to find the truth.