Love yourself first! And if you don't love yourself, learn how. You can't give or receive love until you learn how to love yourself first! And when you love yourself, it is easy to recognize the people who really love you and those who don't.
That is so important. Love is never deceitful. It isn't deceitful to your spouse. And it isn't deceitful to your children. If there is deceit in a relationship, it is not true love, rather it is self-serving and selfish for personal gain.
THE SOUL-UTION!Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don't share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself. Not interested in dating anymore.