I didnt understand this until I was in my 40's. until bad stuff happened to me. It somehow made me realize how important it is to make people around me feel like they are worthwhile. seems so basic. how could I not have known? makes such a difference to people's day when someone makes them feel appreciated, cared about, worth making the effort for.
when we make a change, it's so easy to interpret our unsettledness as unhappiness, and our unhappiness as a result of having made the wrong decision. our mental and emotional states fluctuate madly when we make big changes in our lives, and somedays we could tight-rope across manhattan, and other days we are too weary to clean our teeth, this is normal. this is natural. this is change. - jeanette winterson