God speaks softly to our hearts and if we never spend quiet time with Him, it is impossible for us to know God's plans, warnings and blessings. Make a habit of spending time with our Lord in the morning and evening. It will change your life and the lives of all you love.
I just had a similar discussion with my nine yr old son. I told him to "listen" to me. He replied, of course, that he was "listening". I told him I didn't just want the sounds to go into his ears, I needed the meaning of the words to go into his brain!