What are you planting in the children's hearts with your actions? Children need both mom & dad in their lives and it's up to the adults divorced or married to put the interest of the children first before their own. Otherwise the seeds of turmoil and resentment grow into twisted branches. As someone I know likes to say in Spanish "Rama que crece torcida se queda torcida." What seeds do I plant in the garden of my children's hearts? Do I plant unconditional love or does my love come with strings?