It IS difficult to understand God's plan but even when we don't know why, He promises, "I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future, Then you will call My name." ~New Century Version Bible~
Do not let your relationship turn into one person only being dominant/submissive-share each role, it will turn into an unhealthy relationship otherwise. Use "I see it differently" in difficult relationships.