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Forgiveness is a decision. We decide to cut off the bitter root and plant a seed of love. We cannot blame ourselves if it does not grow; sometimes the other party has poisoned the soil too much. But we must keep the bitter roots cut and plant more and more seeds of love. Forgiveness begins when we make that choice; long before we see the results.
People say I'm too nice. That I need to grow a back bone and stand up for myself. That I need to be mean every once in awhile. But I'd rather be good, treat others good, and put good into this mean world. I think I'm stronger and tougher than any "mean" person by smiling and walking away. I'll always do my best to choose to be good.
Forgiveness. If you are angry, sin not. A lot of the times, we are chastised for anger, or for being uncharitable to others. Fair enough; that chastisement is deserved. But do we think enough about how holding onto anger and lack of charity hurts US by weighing down our souls? Think of forgiveness in terms of taking care of YOURSELF, too.
Sometimes if you want your partner/friend/family member to treat you with kindness, then being kind to your partner/friend/family member first will invite kindness in return. See if it works. It might take a few acts of kindness before your partner/friend/family member softens and things change, but making the decision to be kind can actually change the direction of your relationship(s).