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Forgiveness is a decision. We decide to cut off the bitter root and plant a seed of love. We cannot blame ourselves if it does not grow; sometimes the other party has poisoned the soil too much. But we must keep the bitter roots cut and plant more and more seeds of love. Forgiveness begins when we make that choice; long before we see the results.
People say I'm too nice. That I need to grow a back bone and stand up for myself. That I need to be mean every once in awhile. But I'd rather be good, treat others good, and put good into this mean world. I think I'm stronger and tougher than any "mean" person by smiling and walking away. I'll always do my best to choose to be good.
But you can learn to forgive and move forward, and extend grace. BUT you can NEVER EVER move forward until you have moved through the pain. Wherever you heard that, they were telling you a lie from satan. Why? Because that lie sprang forth from the father of lies and they both need to be told STOP, read God's Word. Then tell satan to go back to Hell. "Resist the devil and he will flee from you."