It is not enough to simply say, "I need more money" or "I want to find my soul mate." The question leading to the life you seek is found only in the question: "Who must I become to attract what I want to experience next in my life?" Until you're willing to approach it from that direction, you'll either be a victim or bait for gimmicks and players. First get clear what you want. Then look at who you must become to attract that experience.