Successful people are not people without life problems. They are people who respond quickly and positively to their problems. They think them through in advance; they anticipate them. And when they can’t, they use the four-step method to resolve whatever difficulty they face. They define the problem clearly. They define the worst possible thing that could happen as a result of the problem.
Forget all the psycho-babel-bullcrap; deep down your heart's love for someone is real. But Never again will I ever allow others to have me think I am somehow codependent. Mourn it, let it go, move on, and be wiser for the next journey...never ever be confused again....
I believe in the long run it's always better to tell the truth. I'm not saying to tell each other everything about everything (or we wold never stop talking). I'm saying we should't lie about things that are important. And being affraid (or any other strong emotion) is a good indicator that somehting is important to you here; something you value. Otherwise you wouldn't feel much. Getting drunk is one way to overcome anxiety. But better to believe you're doing the right thing and be couragous