Successful people are not people without life problems. They are people who respond quickly and positively to their problems. They think them through in advance; they anticipate them. And when they can’t, they use the four-step method to resolve whatever difficulty they face. They define the problem clearly. They define the worst possible thing that could happen as a result of the problem.
so what this is saying, is that i have to stopping searching for my own selfish desires and allow God to lead my life? this is incredibly hard, but it is just like the quotes says: "When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things time to catch you"
You don't get to choose, you just fall in love and you get this person who is all wrong and all right at the same time. And you know you love them so much except sometimes they drive you completely insane - no one can explain it. And the reason it is so confusing is because it's love and if love didn't have challenges , what would be the point?