Narcs flip between ‘Poor Me’ and ‘The Intimidator’. Poor Me gets sympathy and drains power from her listeners. The Intimidator crushes the other person psychically, verbally or physically. And the narcs who feed on others for power can flip between the two.
Avoid people who: 1. Mess with your head. 2. Intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. 3. Expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. 4. Can't and won't apologise sincerely. 5. Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behaviour.