For what it's worth: It's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over. -F. Scott Fitzgerald
Sometimes this quote represents a healthy commitment to keeping dangerous people from creating drama in our lives, sometimes it's just a bullshit excuse to push away those we know would hold us to the fire. Know which aim you're taking before making thus kind of decision. Self-respect is one thing: no one should be a doormat. Loving through striving is a whole different ball game.