See what is not working in your world and turn to yourself in order to improve it. Don't put the blame on others and don't put yourself as the victim. That is the only way to find the strength and the control you have within yourself to improve your life.
Showing my true, real self is hard. Bullied, teased, made fun of for who you really were is hard to come from. That's why people put up walls, barriers, masks, to hide behind. They're afraid that people will do it again, just like the people before.