HA! Yes, be purposeful with this! And NOT believe "I love so-and-so, but not 'in love' with them" - it's the same thing! If you see a couple with a successful marriage, find out why and do the exact same thing! Obviously they are doing something right!!
For what it's worth: It's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over. -F. Scott Fitzgerald More