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Potential to encourage & see more good (or, perhaps less relatively & more accurately put, harmonious &/or life-balancing) habits, over their opposite challenges--for us to overcome with broadened understanding & activity priorities/results replacement, as more mutually supportive local neighbors/real community.
Forget all the psycho-babel-bullcrap; deep down your heart's love for someone is real. But Never again will I ever allow others to have me think I am somehow codependent. Mourn it, let it go, move on, and be wiser for the next journey...never ever be confused again....