Here we are again. Ladies, do your man a favor. DO NOT tell him, even in anger, to do what he wants, because he will. Sure as shootin', he will. Why? Guys are creatures of the moment. They don't often like to think beyond right now, so if he thinks he can go ahead and do a thing, he will think, "Whoo hoo! I can do that thing!" He won't mind read, ever. Be straight and honest.