See what is not working in your world and turn to yourself in order to improve it. Don't put the blame on others and don't put yourself as the victim. That is the only way to find the strength and the control you have within yourself to improve your life.
Your divorce process should help you build the future you're hoping for. Looking to what we want to see happen rather than focusing on what we're afraid of creates a positive and productive dynamic that elevates your discussions and provides room to HOPE that your future will be good.