Forgiveness is a decision. We decide to cut off the bitter root and plant a seed of love. We cannot blame ourselves if it does not grow; sometimes the other party has poisoned the soil too much. But we must keep the bitter roots cut and plant more and more seeds of love. Forgiveness begins when we make that choice; long before we see the results.
..And Jesus said, "Love God with all your heart, mind and soul, and love others as yourself." ...measure all your decisions and beliefs against that. Make sure that you are offering others the same rights, courtesies, and respect that you expect for yourself. If you do that, you can't go wrong. ~ Glennon Melton
They say that ...when you find yourself, try to become a better person all your shitty friend ...well, they will be gone. God will not allow you to work on you, let you get better and heal and keep bad friends that influence you the wrong way. that is not going to happen.