For real! and read "How to get the love you want" by Dr. Harville Hendrix. All about how we seek out someone for the qualities they possess that we don't have when in reality, we can develop those qualities ourselves.
"Your responsibility to other people is in your intent and actions, not in their interpretations." ~ 55 Concepts. You do your best to be clear but people often hear through their beliefs and patterns and for that you cannot be responsible. More