Suffering is letting weakness take over your life and telling you that you need to be sad or mad right now, but this isn't how we should need to handle it. Suffering is not needed to happen. All we need to find is someone who can hold us in our times of trouble, who can make us feel better and make us happy. And most of the time, that person isn't found on Earth, but in the skies of heaven.
The exception is when you're brave enough to come forward and admit the lie. More often than not, admitting the truth takes more strength than hiding the lie. Deceive me again, however, and it becomes a different story altogether.