Words to strive to live by...Proverbs 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. There is an awesome Beth Moore teaching on The Law of Kindness.
THIS is a debilitating side effect of living with a narcissist for 30 years. You never know what they are scheming or when they will deceive you next... but you know they have a hidden agenda and it's coming again and again. The only way to protect yourself is to be on guard every minute. It is exhausting and creates paranoia... and they love that they have that power over you. A very good reason to quit this bullshit.
I craft all the time. I give away and sell my crafts. But sometimes I have so much I don't know what to do with it!