Unfortunately we learn a little late down the path that most things that we worry about and give our utmost intentions to dont really give us comfort . Stopping and putting things in perspective of fond memories and happiness doesnt happen often enough.
your husband should ALWAYS come first before your kids, your parents, friends, work, etc. He is second ONLY to God. Your kids will grow up and leave you for their wife/husband, and you'll fall behind them...your spouse is with you "till death do us part".