I am an enfj-I really hate small talk and chit chat. I may not talk about myself but I do want to know about you. Then when I trust you enough to know that you won't betray me, I may talk about myself. I love listening more than talking.
Be careful who you vent to. A listening ear is also a potential running mouth.… Choose to share personal details only with few trustworthy & close people. That way you avoid sharing to someone who will go about Gossiping about you.
Don't scold or embarrass me in public. Also, I am shy. I hate it when people think only introverts are shy and introverts think all introverts are not shy. I am shy. I am introverted. Get it right people.