Love & Logic: Change the wording of what you ask the kids to do and become more effective. It's all perspective. Change accusatory you statements, into action-packed I-statements Angela's school had a training session for Love and Logic
Lorinda-Character Education: Be a Detective & Asking A ? Without Blame; Conflict Resolution 4 Immaturity jumps ahead and assigns blame. Learning to investigate and ask the right questions is a life skill.
Be a leader, not a boss. You're job is to train your children in how to be good adult, good husbands and fathers, good wives and mothers. Not just good boys and girls. Be a Leader, not just the boss of your kids.