Do not tolerate being vilified. Distance yourself from those who seek to take underhanded jabs at you while maintaining their innocence. Such behavior barks of immaturity and a complete disregard for the feelings of others.
First and foremost, you should always know yourself. I was alone a number of years before I took a serious interest in dating. Am very fortunate that I met the man who is just right for me! But am so glad that I waited to know me and know what I wanted.