Oh my yes, days when confusion reigns and my mind seems to cater to the dictates of others, my aunt had an expression "it's neither one thing or t'other," at these times I'm learning to be still, exhort in calm until I am able to see more clearly
It heals that lost feeling you get, that makes you cry on a pillow at night when no one's watching, and make you feel like you're being such a fake around your friends. Trust me, I've been here. What did I do? I took off to France for 3 months, and I have never felt so confident in myself.