Steel wool soaked in vinegar=distressed wood. who knew? If too gray steep basic tea and use a paint brush to add a few coats of concentrated tea. It will add a slight natural brownish tinge to the wood:
Use Minwax Gel Stain after distressing with Black Painted furniture for that Pottery Barn look. more pics and details inside--great article! I will be distressing my dining room chairs with this technique I
I would recommend doing it outside as it stinks and the rust from the steel wool will stain concrete so do it in a shop or over the road. DIY Vintage Wood Stain look. (How to age new wood). Good for all things wood!