Perhaps one of the most damaging lies we believe about ourselves and others is that we can't be honest about our condition—spiritually, emotionally, financially—or others won't love us. When we believe that lie, we give Satan the power he wants over us to keep us in bondage by not living a confessional, authentic life in community with others. As we confess our sin and poor choices with trusted brothers and sisters in Christ, we take away the power of sin and walk "in the light".
There seems to be a pervasive misunderstanding that to be Dominant one must appear overtly authoritarian, gruff, emotionally impenetrable, and fortress like. Nothing could be further from the truth. The respect and trust that must necessarily be earned in order for a submissive to bare and surrender their heart, mind, body and soul comes from a combination of emotional accessibility on the part of a Dominant, combined with a level of power, balance, and control.