Never confuse etiquette and manners. Bad etiquette is using your dinner fork on your salad. Bad manners is pointing out that someone used their dinner fork on their salad. Manners will always trump etiquette.
The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate
kindness: One of the greatest gifts you can bestow on another. If someone is in need, lend them a helping hand. So not wait for a thank you. True kindness lies within the act of giving without the expectation of something in return . Be Kind.