How to get your dirty whites clean again… HOT HOT HOT water, 1 cap of laundry detergent, 1 cup powdered dish washer detergent, 1 cup bleach, 1/2 cup borax. you have to rewash it once to put softener in but it's the whitest you'll ever see your whites. If you omit the bleach it works great to get stains out of colors too (baby spit up is no longer a stain on OLD clothes)
Homemade Fabric Softener – I have actually made this myself and it softens very nicely. I sometimes try out new conditioners, and if they don't work well for me, I just "recycle" them into fabric softener!