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Use the design for GIRL shower invites...yep - its a girl! Maybe make pink and yellow flags with the grey (the party color scheme?)
After long discussions my daughter and I came to a mutual understanding that her birthday party theme would be fairytale/forest-y/Pet Shop, a mash-up of everything to keep both mother and daughter happy.