My friend Elie said something like this to me once... changed my life. "Just start already and fix the parts you mess up because right now you're not doing anything but standing there, doing nothing," he said. I miss him.
True friend should only ask, "why arent you loud!!!!??? WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!!!???? I WILL MURDER THE PERSON THAT CHANGED YOU!!!!!!!" At times when you arent yourself(or something similar to this! Because they will already know exactly who you are just by hanging out with you!