Choices! Who you are is determined by what you make of each situation. Face each challenge when it comes to you, and do not worry about where you are going. Accept that things happen, and you won't always know why. Live each day like you'll die tomorrow.
Do not tolerate being vilified. Distance yourself from those who seek to take underhanded jabs at you while maintaining their innocence. Such behavior barks of immaturity and a complete disregard for the feelings of others.