I was just telling someone yesterday that they have to read this book. It will change the way you see yourself as a woman. And now here is one of my favorite quotes by the good Doctor who wrote it. (Seriously, every woman should read this book. And then reread it every few years)
This book gives several examples of how people can be creative within a set framework and how you can use instincts to perform well in what you do. - I especially love the introduction to Paul Ekman and the science of face reading.