If you did this, stopped fearing the worst, predicting some non-existant, bleak future where everything goes wrong, and resisted caving in to the pessimist you are, your family might be healing and becoming whole again. But it's all about the fear with you. Fear rules your mind, your heart and your decisions. And that's where we're different. I always visualize how great things will be if everything goes right, and how, even if something goes wrong, we'll fix it because we're together.