Patriarchy! It hurts men, too. The insidious thing about the husband-as-manchild stereotype is the way it inverts the traditional gendered power dynamic. Women arent doing all the housework because its inferior, unpaid womens work, theyre doing all the housework because men are incompetent, stupid, and slow!
am finding that separating the kids is easing the strain on our work time. They just seem to be having trouble minding their own business and focusing on themselves instead of what the other one is doing. By moving one up to their room, and one out of site in the dining room it has eased some of the immediate intensity of the situation.