It is a great mistake in practice to treat an archetype as if it were a mere name, word, or concept. It is far more than that: it is a piece of life, an image connected with the living individual by the bridge of emotion. ~Carl Jung, Man and His Symbols, Page 96.
Wise man, Carl Jung. Some people will always irritate us, and trying to change THAT is a fools errand. But if we can perceive WHAT it is about them that irritates us, and HOW they can push and even manipulate our buttons, we can approach them with sympathy, or at worse pity, but not frustration or anger.