The advertisements of women in the media are the cause of anorexic and bulimic diagnoses in young girls all over the world. They have the image in their head that that is what they are supposed to look like and if the don't then they are not beautiful.
You believed that a " birthday" cake was brought to him and that's why you cheated? No, you cheated and got caught by him and needed an excuse. Why would he want to go back to a lake where " several " men have dropped their pole into " when he is the owner of his own clean fishing hole? Your husband is the one I feel sorry for. He'll catch on eventually because you haven't changed. Does he have any idea how you are still "on the hunt"?