When we yell at our child during heated moments, we've lost an opportunity to teach him a better way. Don't let that opportunity slip your fingers. Stay calm. Help your child calm down. Say, "Right now your engine is all revved up. Let's take some deep breaths together to help you calm down," or, "You're angry, let's run in place until your anger is gone," or "How can I help you shrink your anger down so we can solve this problem?"