Laugh a lot; love much more and believe it is okay to look foolish when you are not hurting anyone . . . have fun--life is precious; celebrate it with Joy!
Sometimes if you want your partner/friend/family member to treat you with kindness, then being kind to your partner/friend/family member first will invite kindness in return. See if it works. It might take a few acts of kindness before your partner/friend/family member softens and things change, but making the decision to be kind can actually change the direction of your relationship(s).