Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. EPHESIANS 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
As social beings and the need to live by our values, relationships are two way streets. Most abide by norms, unwritten rules in which we follow to "fit in." If one is expected to respect others' values, so too should our own values be respected.