As long as others dictate your life you will always be at the bottom. Break free from others "advice". Am I the only person left in the world who does not give a **** about what others say and think about me? Yes I do care about what actions they take but they can think and say whatever they please.
G.K. Chesterton (quoted by Fr. James V. Schall, SJ) once bristled at someone's admonishment that he was too jovial and comical in his sharing of the Truth: the Truth is still the Truth, and didn't cease being the Truth because Chesterton was being funny. Likewise, a priest I know is very serious and reverent whilst celebrating the TLM, but has a wicked sense of humor. The reason: the opposite of "funny" isn't "serious" or "true." The opposite of "funny" is... "not funny."
"There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama & the people who create it & surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy." #Quotes
The number one rule in any civilized society is let people be different. In other words let them be who they are. Another quote. Tell me now if everyone were to follow you completely to the letter tell me would the world be any better? I think and feel my way, I won't be reconstructed and I don't give a damn. So Bite Me.